Often, when we think of love, what comes to mind is acceptance, caring, sweetness, warmth, forgiveness, generosity, and kindness. Most spiritual traditions and spiritual teachers have taught us the value of unconditional love – a love that doesn’t ask anything from the other, a love that is compassionate and embracing. We need to discover our capacity to love with this level of fullness and non-attachment.

But there is another aspect or dimension of love that is exquisitely demanding, unquenchable in its desire for you to give wholeheartedly and completely, always.

This kind of love draws forth your soul’s depth into its arms. The force of love is connected to infinite possibilities, eros, and the evolutionary impulse unfolding the potentials of existence.

This love is innately selfless, allowing you to want the other person out of love, not as an expression of some selfish need – but out of truly wanting YOU. When this force of love flows through us, we recognize each other from the depths and naturally call forth our greatest and highest potentials. To be wholeheartedly loved in this way is truly life-changing.

We shy away from this dimension of love because we fear the unhealed aspects of our immature, demanding ego selves. What is amazing is that when people learn to enter into shared unity or Mutual Awakening, they discover that they are free of those elements of ego and can wholly embrace the power of this force of love. Egolessness is a given at the higher altitude of unitive communion.

Generally, we don’t let ourselves care that much about anything, much less another person. Either we place expectations on the other from a place of egoic judgment or personal needs, or we accept each other and are careful not to ask for too much.

• DEMAND – a forceful statement in which you say that something must be done or given to you; a strong need for something; something claimed as due; a seeking or state of being sought after; urgent need.
• CALLING FORTH – to call someone to come out or forward; to draw a particular quality or induce a particular behavior.

Important dimensions of love are belonging, acceptance, and support to be who we are. We must continue to learn how to love each other unconditionally without the pressure of our selfishness contaminating our connection. But to fulfill our higher potentials individually and together, we must discover this demanding dimension of love and know its power.

Mutual engagement from love as demand activates an extraordinary arising of generosity. It invokes an escalation of giving and receiving that attracts beauty and abundance. It has no boundaries and doesn’t understand limitations – it blindly wants you to not only be who you are but give yourSelf fully and completely. We need to work to become mature enough to activate this love and practice it so often, so completely with each other, that we come out from the recesses of our hidden selves into our full glory and shine together.